My Advent Diary & its discontents, or, I've never made any assumptions about Pagan parenting!
Beliefnet has just published part three of my "former-Pagan-turned-Catholic" Advent Diary.
When you visit, be sure to read the "What Do You Believe?" column located to the right of the page, which is where readers get to respond to what I've written. It's quite entertaining.
When my editor asked me to write this column, she said that it was intended for the Catholic section of the website, and so I wrote assuming my readership would be largely Christian. Ironically, though, most of the responses so far have come not from Christians, but from Pagans. As it turns out, Beliefnet accidentally posted this piece to their Paganism page for two days (oops). Well, at least it's made for an interesting series of responses.
At issue is my comment that, to my knowledge, Paganism has no equivalent to Advent. Lots of guns were aimed at me in response to that, but I stand by what I said. Having studied Pagan approaches to the ritual year with two different Wiccan covens and a druid organization, not to mention all the book-learning I did while researching The Well-Read Witch, nowhere did I find any actual or implied ceremonial equivalent to Advent. No, Saturnalia is not an equivalent to Advent, if anything it is an equivalent to the 12 days of Christmas. What appears to come closest are the vigils of Heathenry. But that practice is outside of my experience, and given what I know about Norse Paganism, I'd still be willing to bet that it is more unlike Advent than like it.
Folks, Advent is penitential. Advent is more like Lent than any other liturgical season, for heaven's sake! Most Pagans I know are happy that Paganism has no equivalent to Advent. But then when I write about this, some Pagans sure seem to get mighty worked up about it. Go figure. But it seems to me that these folks are taking offense not only where none is intended, but where none is given.
Perhaps more understandable is the reaction to my asserting that, "ceremonially speaking, Paganism offers no real alternative to the shop-till-you-drop ethos of mainstream culture." Several people pointed out that their Pagan traditions encourage the season between Samhain and Yule to be a time of contemplation. Once again, that's not been my experience. But I'm glad that these folks have that. Alas, it seems to me that the few readers who tried to respond thoughtfully and considerately to my admittedly-less-than-universal perspective were lost in the midst of those who were busy taking potshots, if not at me, then at Christianity in general. At its extreme, the commentary got truly ludicrous: witness the person who wrote, "the writer assumes that Pagan parents don't teach their children the dangers of consumerism." Wow. I don't know what article this person was reading, but that's so far off from anything I said that it leaves me, well, flabbergasted.
God bless one commentator, named Wyote, who very simply noted, "People are projecting their own issues into the article." Amen!
When you visit, be sure to read the "What Do You Believe?" column located to the right of the page, which is where readers get to respond to what I've written. It's quite entertaining.
When my editor asked me to write this column, she said that it was intended for the Catholic section of the website, and so I wrote assuming my readership would be largely Christian. Ironically, though, most of the responses so far have come not from Christians, but from Pagans. As it turns out, Beliefnet accidentally posted this piece to their Paganism page for two days (oops). Well, at least it's made for an interesting series of responses.
At issue is my comment that, to my knowledge, Paganism has no equivalent to Advent. Lots of guns were aimed at me in response to that, but I stand by what I said. Having studied Pagan approaches to the ritual year with two different Wiccan covens and a druid organization, not to mention all the book-learning I did while researching The Well-Read Witch, nowhere did I find any actual or implied ceremonial equivalent to Advent. No, Saturnalia is not an equivalent to Advent, if anything it is an equivalent to the 12 days of Christmas. What appears to come closest are the vigils of Heathenry. But that practice is outside of my experience, and given what I know about Norse Paganism, I'd still be willing to bet that it is more unlike Advent than like it.
Folks, Advent is penitential. Advent is more like Lent than any other liturgical season, for heaven's sake! Most Pagans I know are happy that Paganism has no equivalent to Advent. But then when I write about this, some Pagans sure seem to get mighty worked up about it. Go figure. But it seems to me that these folks are taking offense not only where none is intended, but where none is given.
Perhaps more understandable is the reaction to my asserting that, "ceremonially speaking, Paganism offers no real alternative to the shop-till-you-drop ethos of mainstream culture." Several people pointed out that their Pagan traditions encourage the season between Samhain and Yule to be a time of contemplation. Once again, that's not been my experience. But I'm glad that these folks have that. Alas, it seems to me that the few readers who tried to respond thoughtfully and considerately to my admittedly-less-than-universal perspective were lost in the midst of those who were busy taking potshots, if not at me, then at Christianity in general. At its extreme, the commentary got truly ludicrous: witness the person who wrote, "the writer assumes that Pagan parents don't teach their children the dangers of consumerism." Wow. I don't know what article this person was reading, but that's so far off from anything I said that it leaves me, well, flabbergasted.
God bless one commentator, named Wyote, who very simply noted, "People are projecting their own issues into the article." Amen!

Comments
I can't speak to what established pagan traditions have done as a time leading up to the solstice, but as a solitary non-liturgical pagan I find this time of quiet repose before the turning of the season quite introspective.
Moving on, here's my other comment that could be construed as exhibiting a high degree of snarkinessThis is very much specifically about Pagan ceremonialism, which is a different thing from Pagan philosophy or spirituality. I don't think its fair to accuse me of saying that Pagans have "nothing" keep them out of the commercialism, when all I said was that I don't know of a ceremonial way in which Paganism subverts the pre-Christmas commercialism.
As for these quotes having a critical tone toward the pre-Christmas retail rush, well, yes that's true. But as anyone who has watched A Charlie Brown Christmas can attest, I'm hardly the first person to make a broad and general statement suggesting that the overcommercialization of December is not a good thing. And you know, I'm with Charlie Brown and Charles Schulz. I'm not against commerce, but I am against excessive commercialism. There's a difference. And I'm sorry if that offends people. But hey, if I censored my writing every time I said something that somebody could find offensive, I'd wind up not saying very much!
One final thought: I really don't get how my attacking commercialism is saying something that is not "overwhelmingly nice to pagans." Frankly, I think it is Christians who should be ashamed of themselves for their commercialism. I blame Christians for the mess that is December, not Pagans. And the fact that I never found a "ceremonial" alternative to the December commercialism while I was a Pagan is hardly an attack on Paganism. For after all, if the Christians hadn't turned this season into an orgy of materialism, Paganism would hardly need such a ceremonial alternative.
A bit of context: Beliefnet commissioned my Diary. It was their idea. They are all about religious dialogue, and sometimes religious dialogue gets clumsy and awkward. Heaven knows, it's not easy for me to write as an ex-Pagan Catholic. I was asked to write about how my experience of Advent is colored by my experience as an ex-Pagan. I knew I was walking into a minefield, but it seemed like it was worth it, not only for my continued growth as a writer, but also in service of the larger question of interfaith dialogue. I'm trying as best I can not to attack Paganism. But if I cannot be honest about what I don't like about Paganism, then my writing would just have the smell of PC-blandness.
Having been pagan for a number of years, I was keenly aware of the challenges of a minority/alternative religion in a culture overwhelmingly colored by one dominant faith. I have no easy answer to that question, and since I'm no longer a Pagan, it's not really my place to speak for how Pagans can (re)create their culture in a sometimes-hostile environment. But I also believe that the conversion of Europe to Christianity was not just some sort of mass victimization. And if it was, then the gospel of Christ was just as big a victim as was Pagan spirituality. Christianity-as-institution is just as hostile to Christ's message as it is to non-Christian religion.
You seem very fond of dismissing anyone who disagrees with you by saying that it's outside of your experience. Quite frankly, it comes across as a subtle way of calling them liars. From what I've read, your experience is not as all-encompassing as you seem to think. You seem to be genuinely clueless about very large segments of Paganism, which is understandable as you're only one person (yes, you've read a lot of books. Hurray for you; so have I).
"God bless one commentator, named Wyote, who very simply noted, 'People are projecting their own issues into the article.'"
This made me laugh my ass off, as I am of the opinion that you are projecting your own issues into your criticisms of Paganism.
I often find much of value, much to think about in your writings, but quite frankly sometimes you come off as a jackass who thinks he knows it all (such as the statement "Having studied Pagan approaches to the ritual year with two different Wiccan covens and a druid organization, not to mention all the book-learning I did while researching The Well-Read Witch...(etc)." Well, other people see a man with a shallow understanding of Paganism despite his self-described extensive experience, who would rather abandon a faith than delve deeper into it... because yes, that's right, everything you think is lacking can be found if you take the time to look without prejudice, something you seem incapable of. Okay, maybe not everything; Paganism doesn't have books and popes to do your thinking for you; you actually have to seek within yourself to find what you're looking for. Of course, maybe you did that and found nothing within. That's your problem, not Paganism's.
When I quoted Wyote, I did it with a twinkle in my eye, knowing that I'm just as guilty of projection as the next person. It's something we all do.
What I find so funny is that people are accusing me left and right of having a shallow understanding of Paganism and yet no one is coming up with a credible ceremonial equivalent to Advent. To quote Shakespeare, "The lady doth protest too much, methinks." Or as we southerners put it, "A hit dog hollers."
Also, I don't know how you missed the season between Samhain and Yule being one of quiet contemplation, because it's a really, really common idea.
My most central question is, why did you feel the need to take potshots at Paganism in the first place? Are you surprised that you got the reaction you did? Why should you be? You've done it more than once, and each time you don't seem to see the connection between what you say and the reaction you get. You said that beliefnet posted your article on the Pagan pages...but you also posted a link to it here, when you know lots of Pagans read your LJ. Not only did you know that the article was going to be read by more than just a Christian audience, you *chose* that audience.
In general, the problem is that you don't seem to make a distinction between certain elements of Paganism not speaking to you personally or working for you, and them not being there at all...as if your experience defines Paganism. This is arrogance, and it's not surprising that people see it as such. You saying "in my experience" isn't a bad thing...except that you make broad, sweeping statements about Paganism, and then when people object, you fall back to your experience, and seem to think that settles the matter...when all that says to me is that either your experience or your understanding of it was not enough to base broad statements on.
But, admittedly, I'm not much of a pagan, more a lifelong UU with pagan leanings. :-)
As I've said on several occasions I find your reflection on your journey fascinating and respectful of diverse traditions.
Advent is one of my favorite parts of Ed's "work" church (he's music minister at an Episcopal church). And the transition from Advent to Christmas heightens the celebratory nature of Christmas in a way that no amount of shopping can that's for sure!
We may be UUs with a slight taoist/pagan orientation but we appreciate the ritual and celebrations of Advent and Christmas.
Have a lovely and relfective holiday!
I think some people have a problem with a Pagan converting to Christianity, especially since there are so many Fundies with an agenda who claim to have been evil Satanic Pagans until they discovered the truth of Jesus Christ as their personal Savior. It does not seem to me that you have done that. Becoming Catholic seems to be an organic growth and evolution to your beliefs. I read Embracing Jesus and the Goddess (reviewed it with my Christian husband for Pagan Education Network's newsletter). I can see why you would choose Catholicism over the plethora of Christian denominations.
I am a Pagan, but over the years my definition of what that means to me has changed drastically. How I describe myself has changed as well. Luckily, I am also a UU, so I can change religions all I want and still attend the same church. :-)
Good luck to you and happy holidays!
Ultimately you had the choice to write or not write the article... there have been times in the past when I've been offered good money to write on something that I found unethical or undesirable, and I turned it down. Keeping in mind that you made the active decision to write the article, given the way the article is marketed, you're going to attract mostly two kinds of readers:
1. Christians who see this set of articles as a justification that recruitment practices (evangelization/proselytization) are effective means of converting non-Christians and should be continued with more "holiday zeal".
2. Pagans who see this set of articles as a back-handed bashing of someone who got disillusioned by the Pagan scene, but still is more than willing to make a buck at their expense. (A way around this might be to say that given your change in spiritual beliefs, all author royalties that you get from sales of your books on Pagan topics will be directly donated to the church. Granted, that opens another tempest in a teapot, but it might make it look less like you're still trying to cash in on Paganism even if you've switched religions.)
My guess is that neither of those two groups are the kind of people that you wanted to reach, however. Still, the way it is marketed (mostly the title, but then also issues with the placement), that's what you're going to get.
I must say that your experience about the weeks leading up to the solstice are far different than mine. In fact, from the training and experience that I've received, the weeks leading up to the solstice are *more* significant than the solstice itself. Without boring you with all the details of things that are done, there's a focus on the review and adaptation of one's self, service to the (secular) community at large, and a lot of planning for the next year. At the solstice, all these things that come up between Hallows and Yule end up coalescing into one focused declaration for what is to come--an indwelling spark made manifest.
Likewise, your advent experiences also differ from mine. My "advent experience" in the Lutheran and Presbyterian church is that it was a way to provide the Christmas story in daily bite-size pieces, which were then repeated at Christmas Eve. Advent wasn't about waiting, but a huge focus on the "get it now" mentality that is fully absorbed by the post-Thanksgiving shopping rush. It was a way to provide "mini-Christmas" every day, that way you could keep the hype going in a commercial-driven time when the religious side of the Christmas hype might get lost. I don't believe that is a necessarily bad thing, mind you.
Within the "Sunday services" of advent, the focus was more on making sure that there was a theme opportunity to hit warm and fuzzy topics that could be cleverly tied in with appropriate carols for each. I guarantee that if you ask most Christians what each individual advent candle represents, they might be able to guess a couple, but probably couldn't tell you all of them. The focus simply isn't there. If the Catholic church focuses on the Mary aspect, that is different from my Christian experiences. The first time that Mary is mentioned as pregnant in most of the protestant liturgy that I've been privvy to is on Christmas eve. (Aside from some that do a brief mention of the Magnificat.)
Ultimately the spiritual connotations actively preached by Christians that I know as "advent" are identical to those that are kept within the hearts of the Pagans that I know. Christians may have a desire to make a public statement about the need to watch mysteries unfold on a daily basis. Pagans act more like Mary... "But Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart." (Luke 2:19)
Pagan or Christian, that's what happens during the season of Yule or the season of Advent.
I think I'm a bit more optimistic about the types of readers that Beliefnet will deliver to this article. Yes, Christian fundies and overly sensitive Pagans will no doubt find it, read it, and draw their conclusions. But I know that many Beliefnet readers are thoughtful people who don't easily fall into just one category or another. Ultimately, those are the folks for whom I write. Incidentally, that's also the kind of person this journal seems to attract, for which I am most grateful.
At the risk of further snarkiness, I don't think most Protestants have a clue about Advent. I think Advent only makes sense within Marian spirituality. That said, I agree with
I make an effort to attend Mass daily, and as much as possible, I attend the Trappist monastery. So much of my experience of Advent spirituality is certainly out of the Catholic mainstream, but is grounded in the daily liturgy of the Church.
I love the last four sentences of your comment. Thank you.
Beliefnet's "Pagan & Earth-Based" page still has a link to Anne Rice's story of returning to the Catholic Church, which is interesting since (to my knowledge) she never identified herself as Pagan. I think they're doing things like this to stimulate discussion and keep people coming back to their site (and clicking on their ads).
Having said that, I'll admit that Beliefnet is my computer "home page" at both home and at work. They DO have great articles along with the tripe.
I can see why they want to stir the pot, but stirring the pot is not the same as building bridges and understanding.
hope you are finding a way to be nurtured
I'm just a klutz. I don't mean to piss people off, but I do it anyway. Always have, always will...
Actually there's lots of good nurturing in my life. Not only a loving wife and kid, but a great network of friends, extended family, cats, books, and carbohydrates. Life is good.
Incidentally, I'm pretty sure the subscription has kicked in. I say "pretty sure" because while I can't put my finger on it right now, I recall seeing the magazine the other night. So unless I was hallucinating, we're golden!
Of course, I'm a "cradle" UU Christian in a church where the largest single group now is probably Pagans, and we all get along just fine, which is more that I can say about the unlamented period when the majority were aethists and Humanists. I'll take anybody's ceremony as long as I don't have to go to another *&@#$ discussion group ;-)
This is a false premise, however. For instance, I find much that is good and, to my mind, superior about Paganism, just as I feel there are areas about Christianity that are superior to Paganism. But this is highly subjective and personal. One can not assume that I find one or the other as superior as a whole. Nor what I like about one or the other would appeal to others. So, in matters as personal as religion, I find it odd that people would criticize your own observations and personal religious needs as a critique of their own personal choices.
No where in any of your articles do I see any evangelicizing nor statments that Paganism is somehow deficient as a religion...it just didn't meet your own needs in certain areas. Nor do your articles read to me as the zealousness of a convert.
I hope I am expressing myself correctly here...I've had a busy day of mass consumerism and commercialization. *grin* Perhaps the following better expresses what I mean:
Religions are many and diverse, but reason and goodness are one. Elbert Hubbard, The Roycroft Dictionary and Book of Epigrams, 1923.
In the matter of religion, people eagerly fasten their eyes on the difference between their own creed and yours; whilst the charm of the study is in finding the agreements and identities in all the religions of humanity. Ralph Waldo Emerson
Happy holidays, y'all.
-Liadan Giolle Brighide
I do participate in the secular version of Christmas though, and I enjoy spending time with my family (who are mostly Christians) during this time. I enjoy filling my child's head with the silly trapping of fantasies and wonders and magic like Santa Claus and flying reindeer and little elves who wear wooden shoes.
On the same token, I do not get totally immersed in the commercialism of the season. Every day of my life (not just on Solstice), I take time out to appreciate the delicate balance of life around me. I take the time to appreciate things that are non-commercial. I take the time to teach my daughter how to cherish those things that are really important, and that these commercial things are simply icing (and sometimes too much icing) on a perfect cake.
I'm not offended by your piece. It was clearly written toward a Christian audience; although, I will state that your statement, "Paganism offers no real alternative to the shop-till-you-drop ethos of mainstream culture," is perhaps the only thing that made one small nerve twinge.
I have an alternative to it, it's called meditation and reflection. And this time of year, I do it more than any other time of the year. It's a time I put aside to reconnect with my inner self and nature around me. It's a time when I make plans for renewal of the earth and of my soul as the sun begins to shine a little bit longer each day. Waiting. It's all about waiting for what is to come. Notice any parrallels?
So in short, I see nothing wrong with your assertion that pagans have no advent, and I'm not offended by it. We have none, we want none, and most importantly we need none. We do have an alternative to shopping and to the advent though -- it's just something we find only within ourselves. And just because you as a pagan had nothing there, doesn't mean the rest of us don't.
I love your writing, by the way.